Worrying is like worshiping the problem. Better you worship the solution and take any action you can to mitigate the issue.
Do what you can and then set it free.
Worry is holding on, not letting go, and what is truly yours won’t show itself until you set it free. If it returns to you, it was always yours. If it leaves, it was never yours.
The paradox is that we repeat the mistakes we worry about because we worry about them.
We draw what we don’t want because we are directly focusing on what we don’t want, instead of taking firm action on what we do want.
Worry is not a prayer, it’s a curse.
I get it though, many of us think worry will somehow deliver us from the jaws of the catastrophe we think we are averting.
Then there’s this idea that if we take action, we’ll take the wrong action.
Anyone relate?
That’s a worry loop that keeps you stuck firmly to the same spot that you long to get out of.
The solution is made of the risk, not the safety.
You have to step out into the unknown. You have to leave the shores of your own worry that you believe somehow keeps you safe. It does not:
It keeps you trapped!
Exposure therapy is the act of taking a moment that you don’t want to feel.
So, in the midst of the worry, you pluck up the courage to make a movement into the unknown. That action, although uncomfortable, exposes and teaches your nervous system that it is safe to take action.
It’s not that you change your mind but that your dis-regulated nervous system begins to teach itself to become more regulated in the face of challenge.
Now, unless you cross that threshold and move towards the challenge, you are going to continue to stand on the outside of it, trying to keep yourself safe by worrying.
It’s backwards, the lack of movement towards the challenge is more uncomfortable than the risk and far more exhausting in the long run.
Anxiety in all its forms is made of stuck -stuckness. The inability to move creates anxiety. It’s trapped energy looking for release any way it can get it.
Set your worry-free, feel what you feel, take the action your instincts are telling you to take but stay very conscious in that and fine tune it.
Try to stop worrying about a control you don’t have.
Gilesy
